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quinta-feira, 30 de março de 2017

Be True

Fun Time In Our Secret Neverland
Art by Perry Gunawan - Indonesia

Be True

Teachings of a life.


Always tell the truth.
Be true, even if it takes decades for someone to listen.
If that is real, it’s your truth.
No matter what's happens tell the truth.
A lie need a coward weak foundation.
The truth only need one time.
The lie need to be recreated and feed daily.
Lie need the weak foundations where to feed from
Lie need feed all the time but one day the truth will be revealed.
So persevere when you work for the truth.
If what you do and say is true, it will never be different and will be revealed.
Be true to yourself and always be true throughout your walk.
Only then you will he reap the greatest of all prizes: that of having a true life.


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29/03/2017

domingo, 26 de março de 2017

How Long Maybe a Tarot Reading?

Amazing Climatic Changes.....
Photo by: Teresa - Portugal


How Long Maybe a Tarot Reading?


"When you are after replies to your doubts, or exploring the misteries to get more knowledge there's not such thing as so big or so small.

All that matters when you got what you needed and not just what you wanted at start."


I got a new record in a tarot reading: 26 pages of text.
Often I add pictures of the cards I’m reading, but this time my camera was broken. And was not a case to copy the same cards images from somewhere else as I did when the client will be able to get more ideas or information from the images.
This was just a Standard type reading, without commenting the numerology related aspects that would add a lot more. Even so, at some part I did a minor citation about in case the person may want to learn more about himself.
Usually I try to be at 10 pages range in a standard reading. Some resulted at 15-18 pages and was a lot until now in my way of working.

Road To Paradise
Digital Art Photo by Nikola Petreski - Macedonia

Each person is different.

This case was even something simple when I took the initial One Main card. I have an option for such reading. The problem become when I start to comment that and explore in detail the aspects.
The matter was even a normal life question, but the client was on need to understand more the aspects, and this is what I’m working for, not just a reply, but add information to the client understand and be able to walk by himself.
This is why I say my work is first for guidance.
Even when the reading is for explore about some work on magic, I have to explain why and what I’m think is possible to do. There’s things people can do by themselves while at other times, I found is correct to explain what is I’m suggesting to work and why and how that will be related for going after for a result.
Just to remember, nobody can assure guarantee results in magic and this is clear stated and explained at the “Readings and workings” page.
Would be easy to me just say… “oh yes, this is so and so and I suggest this or that”.
But no.

See, I’m working alone. This is not a live talking to ask questions or get more information. I’m just working with my own vision plus the Tarot or any other oracle I found suitable to someone anywhere in the world. The same way I need to trust on my guts I found needed to explain what I’m seeing the better way.
And I can’t got quiet when I’m talking with a client, or as usuall, I’m just writing to someone really far away (99,99% most of my clients live far and at other countries). So as my main work is guidance and I’m seeing there’s information the person does not get by himself or have a need to learn more about what I’m talking.
By learning, I say I will try to teach and suggest personal aspects to observe and how to deal with that, areas to explore and study in life. A reason any magic work is under my discretion.

Another simple reason, is my work is not cheap, so I’m not just adding words to make the proposal to be “nice”, but because there’s the need to understand a bit more about what we do and why some works goes easy from hundreds to many thousand dollars value. Such works are not just golden pills to use and when suggested, some may result even in a long working time from myself and even risks evolved, for example, if someone ask me to enter in a kind of war due some reason in their interest this may result in some kind of backfire I have to be prepared to deal. And some works means just years, in a step by step practice.

A 26 pages Tarot reading.That may happens.
So the size of a reading is to present the best I can, and also because I don't bill just for some specific ritual, but for a goal for each one suggested. Sometimes a ritual will lead to another, may need to be repeated for a time, add more others, etc. Talking about the learning path, is always a good practice to ask to the spirits I'm calling what's their suggestion or even they do by themselves, so I have to move to another area and usually that is by me only.  For sure I always notify my clients the possibility for billing for something more when and only I found (and clear explain why) such thing will be really out of any previous measures. Until today, never needed such thing BUT I need to notify the possibility and at same time, I'm very glad and give thanks at some very extreme cases when my older clients offered by themselves additional values like a big gift as they recognizes all the additional works done.

The size of a reading for sure is not all. It’s the contents that matters.
A funny aspect, is when I'm doing revisions of the text trying to make it short, and the result is to add even more material. LOL...

As a personal example, sometimes I paid for readings to myself, as I like to have another opinions and so I received former readings from people I respect a lot, Many was like some phrases and others also was a bit large. But that was all Ok too as they knew who I was and didn’t need so much explaining.
To repeat, I like to have another opinions. I’m not at some magic forums just to cheap talk or teaching others, but to listen and learn with many people I respect a lot. So I often check what I’m doing, use different oracles and ask for opinions. This is just because I’m human like your, and no matter I have near zero faults at readings for more than two decades, does not means I see all and does not means my opinion and experience was the better, but I'm sure about what I have seen.
Someday I expect to find something I really don’t know how to deal and need to learn and I’m humble to say this: someday I will be wrong too, it’s part of our spiritual and magic learning too.
I got cheated too many times mainly due my compassion, a hard learning under tears and blood.

When I dream of fairytales
Art by Elisabeth Zartl - Austria
By other side, we see readings so much generic, even in the right way, but lacking more information. Not a public critic, just an opinion and with respect to the ones who are able to present very short and precise replies. I just need to talk a lot sometimes and the same way, I see people also deserve more comments accordingly their experience.
For sure, in a normal reading, I don’t need to add all such material, just I like to do and when I can to make it for guidance, I do it.
May be with time I will learn to write more using less words or just make my work so specific so people don’t need so much talking.

I stopped to do live readings a long time ago, this still is a possibility for something like a local “day of readings” when someone hire me to do something like 8-10 readings in a day, one each hour or less. I had in the past 30 minutes readings for an entire day too. It’s very interesting. as I did it in the past, and is a matter of someone prepare a group, care of all expenses and the needed proper place. Usually that are nice spiritual times too as I need to opens up myself for a lot of people, including public talk for a group.

When I talk live, I really talk fast, and this is what I write in a normal reading. This one so big I’m citing at the top of this article is near the same as talking near two hours with someone who I was in need for that and the final text is a resume of that.
For sure, I edit and review my texts to shorten it as cited and too often I add more! 
But for live readings, I found 30-40 minutes use to be the needed for a reading. I can talk even just some 5 minutes at the Extreme Method and present all needed info. Each case is different for sure. Sometimes I will talk 20-30 minutes just about one card or in a brief about the personal numerology.
So when I start writing and expanding what I see to put all that ideas into words, the results may become even such big writings.


Something important to note, because the title of this article, and for sure of interest to anyone doing readings, live or not, and is a common problem with some people who does not respect professional work. I'm talking about a personal reading. Be a live talk or by e-mail as I do. The problem is some people just try abuse and want to ask about everyone in the family, relatives, friends, their company busines and etc. For sure your relationship or if the reading is about your job that is Ok. But add more specific to make a favor to others no. That is always abusive. If you go to a doctor, you pay for each one the doctor will look for. Ok? A former reading is the same. Many readers are abused this way and that is a shame.


To add some information about the way I do my readings. And how I work to people at any place in the world. (I live in the south of Brazil so get the idea) To be clear, the last personal reading I remember was some 3 years ago for a closer friend. For sure I'm not the only doing this.  
First I'm on my own vision at start. When someone ask a reading I will see the person question or life with my own inner vision. This is personal and very related to my experience in life. Also a reason at forums I reply to someone and cite I'm under my vision. Be sure I don't use any oracles for that.
The same reason I say nobody is invisible at magic. Be a normal person or someone using a nickname in a forum. Always there's a connection to the one who posted a comment.
Second, despite my vision, and to remember I say I'm not perfect, I will call the oracle, the Tarot (or Runes, I-Ching, etc) and also call for the spirits vision too.
Third, I always evoke other spirits to work with. That start with the angels/deities related to the area, plus the client guardian angel (is always neeeded to ask persmission to enter at the person's world). And as needed, any other angels/spirits/daemons related to the question. All they will add information about the questions.
And for sure, all this add to my own vision for sure and I have to measure that.


The most important is to present the needed reply and when I can add information to the client think about, learn as possible and receive suggestions for their lives become better and with knowledge about what’s happening and coming at their personal path.

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26/03/2017

quarta-feira, 25 de janeiro de 2017

Changes in the Tarot Readings



Changes in the Tarot Readings

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Seat and let's me talk for you.

Once I read something like this:
When you are in front of a Master just ask:
- What to do.
Nothing else is necessary.

With time and personal experiences, I observed more and more I just talk what I see.

As I talk what I see also I observed people and their needs and the ways I can work with that.

Not all people are at spiritual paths. Most are just at normal lifes, have a company, or deal with their homework, or are at the school, whatever.

I'm not here to say you must follow a spiritual path.
But I'm sure anything you do, at some time will be your own path and this is a kind of being spiritual too.
Whatever happens, someday any people will find a main energy ruling life. 


So I did some changes in the Tarot readings I do.

As I work for guidance, at any reading I'm looking first who you are, your path and what to do about.

Then I will look for your questions and others life's areas.

But not all people are after all that information about self-knowledge areas in the same way many just want a guidance for their life or companies.

With time, I have commented more and more, so this make difficult to work with, as not all people are after all that material.

For example, when I comment about numerology, I will make more than a map of your life, but add a lot of information about many areas with suggestions and examples for each case and all that inside a Tarot reading.

And the Tarot part, may goes further a lot about questions and aspects related I'm exploring.

The result is too much work so I need to make some adapt to do it better.


So I found to make some changes and add the option for asking only the Extreme One Card Reading. This part is what demand more of me.


Choose what you need


I will be doing three types of readings:

The Extreme Tarot - One Card Reading.  
This is the extreme reading method I wrote an article times ago. 

Here you can just say what the area you want to know or ask an important question. 
Just seat in front of me and let me talk what is happening at your life and what to do. 
Anyway, I will look deeper at your life and soul for the reply. The result is shorter but focused at the main areas. 
Note: This option is not suitable for asking about works on magic as I need to explore what's happening. For such case use one of the two following complete readings option.


The Standard Tarot/Oracle reading.  
I comment only the oracle parts, so it's more objective but more focused on the practical aspects. 
This includes the extreme reading part plus I will be discussing your questions in many spreads as I found need to get information and present the best sugestions I can.
Note: If you are after woks on magic this is a proper reading.

The  Tarot/Oracle reading commenting Numerology aspects. 
This is also a self-knowledge reading. 
I will first comment your birthday numerology aspects, who you are and how that works as a map to your life. This is a personal study and I strongly suggest you to print it and save for future study. The material I write here are related to all your life and may be re-read and studied in the future many times. 
And this material I will use if you do another later readings as I will be commenting about the from the previous material you received.
The second part is the Tarot readings, plus I will be pointing what aspects of your personal numbers are acting there and why. 
It's become a long size work and unique to each case. 
Note: If you are after woks on magic this is also a proper reading.




Wish this for now help people to find better options.


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25/01/2017

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quarta-feira, 28 de dezembro de 2016

Do Thick Salt Bath or Herbal Bath Over Your Head?

Photo: Gina Blank - Canada


Do Thick Salt Bath or Herbal Bath Over Your Head?
How to make a big mess just because a bath or an incomplete cleanup.


Portuguese resume: "Banho de Sal Grosso ou ervas pode e deve ser feito incluindo a cabeça. A estória sobre fazer só do pescoço para baixo é só repetição de algo que é para sacerdotes formalmente iniciados em religião africana. Se você não é de alguma religião destas (ou apenas frequenta mas não tem assentamentos de Orishas/Lwas), faça seu banho tranquilo. E depois faça um banho com ervas para fortalecimento das areas desejadas".


Spiritual baths are used at almost all traditions.

To start I took as example the very popular Thick Salt Bath.
Most of this apply to others baths types too.

Such baths have in basic one or more of these purposes, I just made a simple resume, not complete but that give an idea:

Cleaning baths:
  • Remove negative energy.
  • Banish some negative spirits and/or astral larvae.
  • Cleanup part of the negative influences due curses/magical attacks.
  • Neutralize some aspects due diseases.
Protective Baths:
  • To empower your body and soul. 
  • Keep away energies and spirits.  
  • To make strong your barriers.
Empowering baths:
  • Attract positive energy (love, health, wisdom, wealth, etc).
  • Add needed energy aspects. For example, some baths are good for mediumship or dreams.
  • Add protection power to body and soul.
  • Add specific powers like planetary aspects due proper correspondences.
  • Become in tune with some desired energies.
  • Healing.
  • Protection.


There are some similar results while washing your house/office with herbs or smoking with herbs for cleanup or attract desired energies.


For sure I won’t discuss about doing cleanups at large buildings, offices or land areas like farms. There are many other practices proper to such places, that need more power. But even so, the basic are related, so you will have an idea about what is to be done.


What is the Thick Salt Bath? 

What is the Thick Salt Bath? It’s just a cleanup, most for eletronic type energy and low-level spiritual energies including astral larvaes. Start with the idea of the purifying aspects of the salt, plus the simple electronic results it has over any energy.

A salt bath is just a cleanup, not selective, to remove any energy, bad or good.

Such bath is very popular just because it’s used when people feel they are at bad times and need a cleanup of the bad aspects in life.

Many people use to do a sea bath at the New Year celebrations as a cleaning too.


You must get this: a Thick Salt Bath is not a banishing against strong spirits. Such cases need more to be done.


Many of such baths may have a prayer part, most used by former magicians and people who works at spiritual areas.

By other side, the common, “normal” person just is after a bath to cleanup the bad and they just think about to attract the good energies into their lives.

But the salt only remove and clean, so you need to do a second bath later to attract the good energies


A classic example used by many ceremonial magick practitioners is the Solomonic Bath, that uses consecrated water and salt, a lot of prayers and sometimes some herbs:
“…Enter the bath once again, recite Psalms 104 and 81 and pour the water over your head several times....”
 from: The Solomonic Bath – Aaron Leith


If you do not have a bathtub, you can use a bucket. 
Yes, this is a water with ice bath, and is a good spiritual bath too!

The problem

Too often I see people cite about doing cleanup baths and add a “warning” to not pour that over your head.
I fully disagree. Who are they? Do your herb or salt bath without fear from head to toes.


Such baths are part of the many ways for a spiritual cleanup, to remove bad energy, banish spirits, protection or to just to attract good energies into your life.

To be clear: as cited above there are baths to remove energies and the same there are baths to get energies.

And to be very clear: having a bath in a clear fall in the mountains, or in a stream, or a rain bath, including your bathtub or shower also have spiritual capabilities for cleanup!


Source: Spiritualjapan


Even a clear water is a cleanup or empowering bath if proper used. To be clear, do a prayer and consecrate the water.
It’s just a bath to make it simple. But with additional effects.
And many of that works near in the same way like doing smoking with herbs.
To repeat, some will banish energies and some will attract energies.
And for sure there are rituals to do since the basic to even more complete cleanups.



Why some people say to not pour the bath over your head?

Most of them does not know the why. They are just repeating like parrots. Someone told, or they read at any magazine, etc.

The most popular source for this idea in the western countries is because a mixing of practices with some from ATR (African Traditional Religions).

The idea presented is because the head is a kind of “property” of some spirits of that religions, the Orishas, Lwas or someone else. Some use a different word, but still the idea is “property”. Some even forbid their members to have a simple bath at the sea! Yes, you can’t swim in the ocean!



If you are not a former initiated member of such religions that in no ways apply for you. Dot.


Some religion say you can’t eat pork. Others say cow are sacred. Others are vegans and etc.

Each area have their practices.

So keep yours, just respect others the same way they have to respect you. .


If you are a client at some of that areas for sure be respectful, but they also must respect you too. That is their practice, their faith, not yours. You are not forced to enter into a religion if you are just a client.


You have to go after information too. Look for more sources.
For sure I respect the good and serious priestess and priestesses. I'm a Babalorixa at Candomble, so this is my opinion.
I just had too much bad experiences and knew so much bad corrupt ones to learn and think more what may be or not to be right. And be sure this happened at other areas I work for decades.


Do not act blind! If you do not receive a very clear and decent clear reply from spiritual mentors, or even become threated due asking, get out fast!

"No true spiritual ally, like a true friend in the land of the living, should treat you as a pet. Either they serve you or you're equals. - Gordon Finn” 
from the Ritual Offerings book.


This is something simple and is part of all I wrote about the risk of mixing practices for the Ritual Offerings book. The part I wrote is related to many other magical areas too. There are many ways to opportunists spirits (and the charlatans) get control and feed from your life. 99% of what I wrote most ATR priestess won’t tell you. That’s my practical experience, I went deep in the darkest corrupt areas, I learned under blood and tears. So please remember there are the good ones who are serious and do a good work. I'm just pointing the many traps.

The other problem as told above, are the people who just repeat things like parrots about magick and spirituality. They become victims too, just are working blind in the magic/spiritual because they don't know what's really behind that.

Holly Dip. A sadhu swings his head as he takes bath at Sangam in Allahabad.
Photo: Jagran.com - India


What may happens if you do not bath your head too?

To be simple, the bath will be incomplete and allow opportunists spirits to take you.

If you don’t bath your head, that important area become opened to any intrusive spirits and energies.
One simple idea to compare is doing unsafe sex. Would you trust if someone you just found, want sex at start without condoms and even get furious if you question that?
Think on risks. Have safe sex and the same way, have safe religion and spiritual practices.


So if you are not a former initiated member at such religions, and avoid doing a bath over your head because an idea that appears even a threat from an unknown source, guess what kind of spirit will find very easy to find an opened door and take that space? Uhm? The bath will cleanup the entire body, including any guardian for a time, and that space will be taken by any energies waiting safe in the head!

And more important: if you are not a former initiated and do not wash your head with the baths because fear some spirits, be sure that spirits won't be working to protect you. Forget the parrots talk, all that are incomplete. At any area, the spirits only will start to do some if you start working with them and doing offerings and even worship. At some areas this is the real purpose of tell you to not wash your head. A trap.



Higher spirits won’t destroy your life because a bath.

The higher ones spirits means to be powerful and able to keep some distance while you have a needed care. If some of that cause harm to your life because this, be sure you are not in a good area, so is better to get out and move to a safe place.


And see later the comment bellow about a needed second bath after the cleaning with salt or herbs.

I fully keep my position about anyone who is not an initiated at some religion. They have not to obey to some spirits that have nothing about their lives.The same if you eat pork, or like meat, is not a vegan, etc.


How baths work to make it simple:

If you do a cleanup (to remove energies), the only precaution is to remember if you have some kind of guardians. Just notify them so they will be apart for some time and return as you finished.

This is the same if you wash or smoke your house with herbs. Any spirit, angels, etc. will take distance. So if you have an altar for example, be sure the spirits/angels of the altar will also take a safe distance. Just remember to notify your guardians or altar spirits about the cleaning you will do and after some hours, call them back as commented bellow.

At the drawing I omitted any guardians just to make it more simple.

At the first, is an example of someone with all kind of bad energies, inside and outside.
The second, is what happens if you do not pour the bath over your head. That is simple: any energies at head level, inside and outside can stay there and later, will feed from the fertile area resulting bellow. This is why I used a grass area as example.
The third, is an example for a optimun full bath. In practice this is what is desired. To have a powerfull cleanup and empowerment and get good energy around.

Also, to make it simple, the idea here is doing a cleanup bath followed by an empowerment bath as cited next.





After the bath/cleaning remember to fill the place again

Once you had your bath, or did a house cleanup like smoke, etc., wait some few 3-4 hours so that have the needed effect and follow that with another bath or smoke with herbs to attract good energies.
Prayers are good too.

Get this? If it was a cleaning bath, just wait some 3-4 hours and do another bath, first just clean water to remove the salt and then bath with other herbs to attract the desired good energies.


As the cleaning salt/herbs bath can remove anything, so after you need to fill again the space with good energies.
And if you have guardians, altar spirits, etc., just light a candle, do a proper prayer and offer incense or smoke the place with positive herbs calling them to come back to the place you pointed to them at your house and life.

Note: sometimes after the first bath, when the person is to heavy due bad energies, the body will relax and need to sleep to rest. If this happens, is very Ok so have the needed sleep and then do the following bath.


This is the same basic idea for a general building cleaning. For sure these are other procedures and even stronger rituals to be done by a magician/priest. First banish the undesired spirits, then make a powering rite and invite the protection spirits to care of the place.
About buildings and land areas, for sure there are some extreme cases, where exorcism is needed and some of that can be really hard to deal.  To be sincere, some places are near impossible to cleanup again because is needed to negotiate with the spirits and what they ask may cost a lot, not just money for sure. So only mother nature will do that working for thousand years.


What herbs use later for an empowering bath?

That vary a lot.

Since the generic ones to specific areas, we have a lot of herbs to use and the choice sometimes is related with what area the person need more.

Some very easy to find:

  • Rose petals. For Spiritual and Love areas.
  • Bay Laurel. For protection and good to connect with higher levels of spirituality like spiritual mentors.
  • Cinammon. Body force and prosperity. Lavender. Peace and calm.
  • Rosemary. Mind focus. 
  • Hyssop. Cleanup physical and spiritual, remove negative energy and is also good for protection. See Psalm 51. You can use Mint in the same way.

You will find many herbs references. The important for the second bath is look for herbs to attract energies, not the cleansing ones. Remember, the idea is to add desired energies.

And repeating, always is good to do a prayer according your faith for your spiritual mentors bless the baths you are doing.


To resume

A spiritual cleanup bath can't be seen as a sin.
There are the cleanups, the protective and the empowering baths.

If you get all this, I’m sure some of you may start to think about some cases when people had did such baths not pouring the water over head and times later had the same or even worse effects as before. For example, some spirits asking for offerings to keep out.
It's easy to find people who started doing simple things and later they had to do more and more other works, too often to solve problems they had not before.
The same for buildings/houses cleanups when people do the banishing and don’t add the needed protection rite after the cleaning.

Remember, an empty body or building or land area is a place to be filled.
So have control over your life and do a decent complete cleanup and follow that with a rite/bath to invite the desired good energy/spirits to care of that.

So just do the complete bath and add an empowering one after for a complete result

Get this? Simple, uhm?

So do your bath from head to toes without fear and later just do another one to get good energy.


Additional reading suggestions: 

The Uncrossing Ritual - A great resource and lots of information by Brother Moloch.
The Solomonic Bath – A complete review and step by step of this classic Grimoires procedure by Aaron Leith.



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26/12/2016


sábado, 10 de dezembro de 2016

Business Lunch or a Free Reading Can Be The Same

Time for Business (to some this is what you valuated for)
Art by: Ry Ry Pie Mcfly - Australia



Business Lunch or a Free Reading Can Be The Same

Be a business lunch or a meeting at some bar. I have not seen so much difference. 

I liked a lot the following article as this apply to my professional work as software professional for decades the same way as it happens often working at the occult.

It’s wonderful a good talk with closer friends and the good colleagues we do in life, I say, the ones you are often sharing experiences are always in that closer group all of us have, the valuable ones who shared lives and sometimes help at our needs and we are glad to help too always. Such ones are the ones who deserve and have full merits, we may even have rare contact but they are priceless.
But not everyone is in that list. Oh, you are one famous at you social group? Bullshit. There are a lot of people who we not used to talk often, just some rare contact here and there. And the ones we never talk. 
And what’s happens? Just someone you had rare contact or never talked or had a rare message here and there, came at once claiming why you does not reply fast at messenger and want just asking for free readings and guidance’s at first messages in Facebook, Whatsapp, etc. 
Anyone who work on computer’s area or occultism learn fast that happens often. Some are very rude like citing money is no important, spiritual work must be free and some even want your personal phone number to call you in the mid of night! Usually such ones who say money is not important have a lot and only want free work. Just spiritual parasites or company’s opportunists. 
Others try a sweetie talk at first phrases but suddenly present their real intention asking about an Ex-boyfriend or about how to deal with some complicated high value business matter at their companies or whatever else. Uhm, a Us$ 12 million transaction is never the same as a personal question to deal. Hey? Business talk is business, never but never a personal question and for sure not the same price! I remember someone who really deserved six months with a bad broken leg because that. I just refused to accept the energy they tried to put over me, so that bounced back. For free? No ways! This one more reason we ask a bill to work. If I accepted that cited, it would be my broken leg. Got this? We pay together when accept a work. Dot. 
As about most of other topics you have to think about how much at least a psychologist or a lawyer will bill you for many months. What change is the time we can solve things, not miracles, but each area work in a distinct way. Moreover, that means it is work. Dot. 
Hey, can you fix my company software computers problem for free? Hey! There are public forums where people are voluntary, so do your homework and go there and be respectful to wait for someone who have the time for a suggestion. As any forum, that is voluntary work, learn to be respectful and never expect for a miracle. 
But if that is a private work, one to one, then is easy to realize how often that often need dozen hours just to get what the problem is. Plus a lot more of years of experience to know how to deal with it. If that such ones acting like parasites does not get this, would be better if they jump from a high cliff. 
Disclaimer: I’m not promoting suicide, this is a suggestion to such ones just disappears and let the good ones act.  
To be clear, in the spiritual aspect, suicide never but never is a good act. Better to accept your suffering and work to solve it. At the other side things will be very worse for a suicidal.
Ok, we know life is not so sweet and there are predators and opportunists anywhere. So there are the human predators and we have to learn to keep them at place.  

So, back to the business lunch or a friends meeting in a bar. 
That is a lunch or a bar time, to meet someone, have a good talk and so.
If you want to talk about business, be clear about that. This means to be respectful. What kind of work you expect to receive if you act like a parasite? Be sure that will be very uncomfortable very fast but we know, opportunists do not pay a fuck to be just asshats. 
I had a lot of such calls too. Like a sellers representative of a major computer supplier just trying to get corporate info going to someone even asking for a free source code copy of a Us$ hundreds thousands software I developed for clients who have a giant debt with me. Yes, they try.

At the other areas I work, things are not different. 
Hey “buddy”, I’m at city tomorrow so come meet us to that (a fashion high price) bar at nigh to a party and to talk because I have something (a gift) to you (some people don’t know how to use mail). Like the following article, the bar was 35 miles away, more than one hour driving because traffic, I was expected to pay my bill and… glad to Facebook that show “Mister X replied to N”… I saw messages at other profiles from many other people at the same group like… “hey, very good HE will be there, I have a lot to ask about my problems. He will came with the Tarot too?” 
Oh, just one more invite for a bar to do free readings? I was sure before anyways as I have my vision, but just fuck that deserved what was coming. I tried to comment more, but, that one as many others, are happy to buy luxury personal itens found to pay a reading too much. Uhm, that was  too much? Be sure many times that can be a fart in the wind for the times coming but I won't be stupid to say that for free and receive the bad energy to myself. No way! Sorry, as cited sometimes serious business talk means business talk.  
Sorry, in the past, I went to many places like a bar where I even did two dozens numerology readings very specific just to promote my work. An idea from a press guy who I love, but in practice, I had to pay my bill all the times and that never resulted even a client. Zero. 
Same reasons to stop to do personal readings. Too often that became something like a gossip session. I work to people around the world so I can be very objective at what I'm doing.  
And when things are at software area, the place for that is at the office during daily work time.

The ones who valuate what you do will be happy to pay you the same way they are ready to buy a nice car, a jewerly or something else. 

There are the “sweeties” women I found. They called me… Hey, let’s met at such (very good) restaurant (but I would had to pay both bills…) because I like to talk about occultism (in practice they had a problem with an Ex or something else. What? 

Going to a nice example, I remember a client from another city long time ago, who became a closer friend, she and her husband was directors of a company’s group and replied me once as an offering I did for a discount due their time with me: “No discount. My friends pay me”. She used to refuse discounts. Few companies do that. Wow! We know you are doing more than full work, so keep full price! That is rare. And she often pointed my work to other companies just because she was satisfied. A nice person. Be sure I used to do anything for a better work to her company. 

This remember people who contact you and offer to pay with “references”. That’s the most complete bullshit. Some few invited me to a bar, and even paid the bill. But asked everything about any areas you can think related to their top business. Uhm, I found better bill for my work and pay my drink.

I’m talking about more than three decades of experiences just to be clear if someone got offended.

People who does not respect you and does not respect your time and work NEVER are a good reference. They are ready to pay for a plumber, the phone company, a fashion shoes, whatever. Not for you. 
Keep away and save your time. As cited before, decent people and my friends know I have a life and family too. 
Just to give real credits, as I learned to give thanks for the good and also the bad experiences. I had a lot of results from free work I did for “references”. Guess what? First, that does not paid any of my bills. Second, they always pointed to more people (who had a lot of money too) and also wanting free work. So adding to many others people experience who also know such famous ones, that means nothing. Oh, are you famous and want anything for free? You are just one more shit. Be sure such ones are just parasites and will add nothing and even won’t accept if you cite their names as clients. Dot. 
The good ones are good seeds for a better harvest. The bad ones, uhm, they are just solid groud, nothing grew there.  

So do me a favor, before being rude with a professional, call the plumber to fix your old house problems (materials included) and say him it must be free. 


At this article, Lyz Rian once more time show very well how important is self-respect as only the ones who deserve you, will get you. 

Here the original article I’m commenting and I wish you read it and many of the others she posted. 

Lyz Rian is working seriously at HR area to help making people and companies better and here once more time she presents great comments to learn: FiveWays To Be Rude And Unprofessional At A Business Lunch.           

Wish you get more form her articles too as we are at XXI Century and is time to better humans relationships and companies acting better.

So, please, if you want a free reading be respectfull, that is my job too and you have the link for readings and works here!

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09/12/2016
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