Love: How Disconnect Emotionally From Someone
Note: This article talks about Love, but most of this material applies when the person got trapped due feelings like passion, lust, etc.
Sometimes as humans, we will fall in love and that don't work.
Other times, we are very connected to a friendship and that don't work.
And more than this, sometimes we are in a spiritual love with someone who we had faith.
All that are emotional aspects.
And the most know is the Love relationship among two people.
People think love is something like that nice fairy tales, meet one and be happy forever.
But life show there are more than this and it's easy to find millions of fantasy or poetic opinions about.
Love is a main Universe Power, in practice, this energy is the source of the entire universe we know.
So human beings will find many ways of Love acting.
The Love of parents and their children.
The Love between brothers and friends.
The Love of the Nature.
The Love of the God as you perceive Him.
And the Love two people have as partners, lovers. LOL...
Ok, just to remember most of times people think Love means only a couple relationship.
So, to make easy, what I will post now is almost the same to all that areas Ok?
My background about:
Too often we see therapeuts talking like they are something the best of all, the very Oooba-boobaa of the perfection with incredible succesful lifes. Most of times we found they are not.
I started too early by my own effort to be consciouss I'm not a super-hero, nor a super-scholar, nor a super-fashion-style-guy.
I'm only myself.
I have the same problems any normal people have, like love, sex, money, spirituality, bills to pay, a normal life.
Be sure I have suffered at the most extreme levels due some ex-girlfriend, or an ex-friend, or someone I had admiration at any area, friends and also including at spirituality, etc.
To be clear, I know what means to cry with the most strong pain at my body due someone for long time while I was trying to discover what to do. And this was more than once and for different reasons as in these areas.
As any other texts about the human life area I have wrote for three decades I write about my own experience.
This is what I do. I'm not a scholar, no matter how much I study.
I'm a practitioner and what I have to talk to people is about my own path and what I learned from others too.
I'm glad for the nice scholars who have the patience to collect all that naterials and make it easier to all the other ones who are serious about learning and doing the needed work. They are priceless. So please, valuate your good authors, they do what few are able to do.
Love is Wonderful.
And a couple Love is the main inspiration for the most books, music, inventions, whatever.
And to be in Love, is just to be near Heaven in life.
Plus all that nice aspects like home, family, support at personal goals, friendship, etc.
But sometimes that does not last forever.
Someday people will learn some relationships happens just for a mutual learning.
I say, many relationships have just a reason to exist.
And the reason is: mutual evolution.
But for sure, not all times we get that. Myself included (I'm a human, Ok?)
So may happens what was Love can become into a big pain. And I know it.
Some will fight to keep a confort zone, until all that have to be finished.
Love is not a game. Dot.
Be sure to finish can be very easy even for a real Love. .
Uhm, sorry, to say better, it appears to be easy.
This is what most self-help authors and a lot of fluffy people don't tell you.
I was into that area too, so and I learned a lot at newage in the 80-90s and a lot more from the many spiritual areas I was in these decades. Including the fluffy mystics.
Sorry, I was there, I did that too! LOL...
It's not cheap practice. Need a big self-Love to solve that. Self-love question.
And for most self-help authors this does not sell books. LOL...
So let's see in a wide way.
The following is a schematics about what I learned and observed to happens.
To understand better, let's see how Love works in the experience I had and collected and experienced.
Loook at the previous draw.
When you enter in a Love state, that is a like closed circle.
That is an entire new realm.
There are a realm related only to yourself, where experience Love.
To be clear, in a couple, each one have his/her own circle. That's not a prison where both stay.
So the way how each one will left that area is different.
So observe I pointed three different exit door:
1) The No Love Direct Exit Door. This is simple. The person was never in Love, just had a nice time, but never had entered at the Love realm. They just walk around for a time and leave.
2) The Exit by Pain Door. Accepting the pain and going into the center, to the other exit door.
3) The Exit By Love Door, when you free the other and let him/her goes just by Love. (remember, true Love is freedom).
1) The No Love Direct Exit Door
The first is easy to get. The person just have some fun, but never experienced Love.
Was just fun and is easy to let it behind.
In practice, the person never entered in a Love realm.
This is why too often we talk with someone who does not understand why the other just left so easy.
But the following two other doors, are a personal experience.
See, if you are inside the circle, it's your circle. The other never had such one.
As I told, each one in a relationship have his/her own realm, a personal circle. Both will share experiences, but each one still is unique about that.
To make simple, let's continue talking about just one circle, but this for sure apply to each one accordingly each one level of conscioussness.
Be clear: Only you can work in your circle. You can't live another one life. Your feelings and thoughts are your only.
While you are that love realm, observe there are many levels, many experiences, as human life happens so we will experience all that.
This is what I draw that line moving all areas, as an example of how people acts during the relationship and even after that.
We'll be moving from high Love feelings level to the confortable areas, where everything is Ok.
But when troubles happens, some will work to solve it and climb again to the high levels.
A desirable level at most is the "confortable level" and up. Things are Ok, no dramas, just moving daily to care how much to do more or not. That's is more like being friends, but still Ok.
But others will just accept an accommodation level. That is when there are a lot of problems, just one or both chose to do nothing and accept to live a boring sad life. Some become near zumbis. How many relationships we see this way around?
So even nice people sometimes will be caught at the very boring accommodation level. They forgot to care about their relationships. No watering, no care, nothing. There's nothing to make about as this only happens from inside.
If one does not want, sorry, the other can't do it by him.
And this how so many relationships are working around the world.
This is the meaning of the lines in the previous draw.
2) The Exit by Pain Door
Sometimes things goes worse. And everything is falling.
And some people will do anything to avoid the pain exit door. They will have a long time of suffering, never doing a serious move to change that.
Remember the lines, when love finished, only suffering happens and people still refuse to let that realm.
The sad result is something like this:
All that became sadness, a hell in life and still people refuse to get the exit door due fear of the suffering they already have!
Note here the Exit goes to a nice garden with a new path.
When It is Finished Get the Main Exit Door
Someday people realize love have gone and need to move on.
And how to go for it?
The most direct is to grown, become mature.
Emotions are strong, but still you must be on control.
So the best of all is to move to the Pain Exit Door.
The Pain Exit Door is where the strong suffering may happens.
In practice not exactle suffering.
I like to call it "Pain Door", but it's not always so.
The Pain Exit door is reached only when you choose to feel really deep all the Love and find that you need to have the final cry. It's the burning of all the remaining feelings.
It can be the most painful point just because is hard to accept it.
The mind don't accept it.
But again, that will be really such a stronger pain?
To be sincere, NO!
Be sure, what really pain is to stay at the accommodation area, avoiding the pain.
That pain will be like a stick, but only a once.
Sometimes you need to go to a doctor and receive a medicine too. Many people dislike, but it's needed.
What you have to do is choose the risk of the change.
This is a final decision.
Is the moment you really say to yourself it's time to move on!
It's the time when you learn you have to Love yourself first, to have a live, self-steam.
When you enter there, you will discover that door is like a Fire exit.
And as I told, going into that door means you will be recalling all the Love you had, but for a last time.
That will be the final cry, the final suffering.
Like a Fire.
And that fire will free you.
So for such cases, cry all you can if you feel so, but accept and enter at that door.
The day you do this, you won't look back.
For sure, is nice to keep the good rememberings, but once you cut the love aspect, that will be just part of your life experience. Nice times, nothing more.
3) The Exit By Love Door
What is leave a relationship by Love?
Another popular quote: true love frees.
Sometimes we meet someone who have a mission, something to do.
So we have to free him/her to follow the path.
The Lie about Twin Souls
This is something a lot of romantic people had. About someone, the only one in the universe who is your perfect match.
Sorry, it's not so.
I don't mind what idea of a God you have. So think with me: may such Powerfull God to be so cruel to make just only one person who is related to you in this entire planet?
There are hundreds and even thousands of twin souls to each human being in the planet.
May be you live in a very small village with few people. But just go to another place and fast you will discover how many more people are ready to meet with you!
Just to think, there are more than 2.5 million cities in the world. I'm sure you will find a true love at most of them if you stay there for a time.
Uhm? So forgot that stupid idea about just only one person in the entire world. That is a sin story created to make people have fear to love and keep at stagnation level.
Few people get what really twin souls are.
A twin soul is someone who have very similar levels of evolution and consciousness like you.
So most probably, the same way as you, he or she will also have goals in life.
For people at simple life, that often is not a problem as the goals are more basic.
But the most you have evolution, self development and more at spiritual areas, such goals become really big to deal, long time tasks that will affect even the entire planet.
So how to match two people with so important works to do? Uhm?
Each one have too much to do so is near impossible they stay together except for very short moments and that is not a relationship.
So here is a nice example, as when two real twin souls meet each other, the world appears to explode around in light and blessing shared with everyone.
When there's a real twin souls match, that is a giant event.
But they can't stay together, each one have a path.
So they give thanks to each other and leave the other free.
For life both will know where the other is, but they know can't be together and will fully Love each other.
See here a complete different Exit Door at the center:
Still, the exit is at the center.
Is the same previous door at the center, but there's no pain.
Still the center is the point of the maximum Love.
This is what really happens when True Love frees the other.
They go at the maximum Love and become free to follow.
About Using Magic to Disconnect Emotionally From Someone
Is that possible?
Well, I may say yes and no.
Take the idea from the first circle. To disconnect what you need is became consciouss about what is happen, become more mature and grow.
Once you got counsciouss that Exit Door will be or not of pain.
The same way magic can't create true Love, I think for now is not really possible to destroy a Love.
What is possible is to help the process about how to deal with that circle realm.
So the main aspect is to bring Light over the situation. Bring light inside your mind and make thoughts clear.
But even Light can be hard to deal.
So, many works will put light over the situation, so you see what is really happening.
But many people won't like what they see, sorry.
Anyway, some suggestions:
Water to cleanup your emotional bodies
A nice and simple shamanic approach is to drink water. I say to drink some 6-8 liters a day for some two weeks and than come back to a normal level (2-3 liters a day). Have one week to rest and do it again.
Water is related to emotions, so the first idea is to "wash" your feelings. The second idea is water is a kind of light, so you will put light inside yourself to banish the dark aspects.
The cleanup by fire
This is something I have done using my witch cauldron to burn connections and any dark energies related to the person.
There are relations where links become very stronger and this is a way to workout it.
Also, the fire will bring light over the situation.
If you already have worked for years with Chakra working techniques, there are some to help.
One is the Atisha’s Heart Meditation. The idea is to use it with a minor change. The technique works to bring concioussness and change your mood.
Bring your awareness to your heart chakra.
(Here the change) With each in-breath, breathe all YOUR OWN suffering.
The heart chakra is a big fire of Love that will transmute that suffering into light.
So with each out breath, breathe out love and compassion.
Get this? Use your own heart fire to burn all the suffering into a Universal Love energy.
Secondary effects are you may bring more light into the previous love you want to forget and will cry really a lot. By other side, this may help you to make the decision to go to the Pain Exit Door and become free.
This is a general all aspects transmutation meditation anyways.
Crystals are pure energy of nature. They will help to cleanup your energy. A decente size crystal is needed, so forget that cheap 0.5" size ones. I say big crystals or some with that rare extreme pure quality (usually 10x the price of others). A decent size Ruby can be usefull to due it's power on self-steam.
For sure, some common size crystals will work too. Something like a hand size is Ok to have near during your meditations works.
Working with Angelic or Demons Magic
Angels show what is happening and works to make you learn what you need to learn.
Again, light over the events so you can choose and make the move to left that bad situation.
Many demons are just angels with another name or ancient deities. Just they may show what's happening, but some will help more to break the connection creating or just showing something to make the break happens.
Citing Jake Stratton-Kent: "a spirit good for creating a relationship may well help get over one too. With conjure magic looking sideways at the spirit's abilities is a useful knack."
What I think about at most of times, they will help to bring light over the relationship so your mind will have the needed to make the choice and finish that.
Calming the mind
There are ways to make the mind calm. Even forget for a time and this can become a needed rest.
See, there are some works like a freeze spell to make someone "forget" something for a time.
This way, anything that still exists may gone forgoten for a needed time.
The better of all
Be sure, until now the best I found is to know someone you have interest and have a new relationship.
Even a friend who you become intimate.
Yes, friends have sex too or just have nice caress together. Even a good friend for fondly kisses will do wonders for your heart chakra cleanup.
This does not means a new love, just someone you like to be with and this way, nature do her work cleaning up your soul.